Where Has All The Romance Gone

I am an avid Nicholas Sparks reader and I love watching sappy love stories. When I watch shows with intense romances, I start to think about romance. Now some people believe that movies set an unrealistic standard for romance, but the truth is when women watch these movies they pine for it because it's really not unrealistic. Sure twilight is a bit on a crazy side but stories like the notebook don't involve two robots who fall in love with lasers, it is about two people who have been through it all and still love each other enough to stand by each other through it all.

So these movie don't set an unrealistic standard for women's views on love, it is just that romance has disappeared.

There was once a time when a man would die for the honor of a woman. There was a time when men would fight to the death over a woman, but now we have men that don't want to support their children, let alone the woman who birthed them, and men who use terms like booty and SWAG!

There is nothing unrealistic about these romance movies, its just that society has turned their back on them. Now I know that finances are the number one reason behind divorce, but I wonder how different this statistic would be if romance was what it once was or what it is in the movies.

Infidelity is common, but its because there is a lack of romance, people crave the thrill of the beginning of a relationship because that is the only place where romance still stands.

Men always claim that they don't understand women, but the answer is clear. When you sit down and watch a movie of a true love story and think to yourself great chick flick, you are missing out on the clear picture.

Women want romance ...just like in the movies....but what exists today is far from romance, if you look at some of the classic movies to today's standards, there would be major differences...

Titanic- if she didn't take the spot on the lifeboat, he would have called her stubborn and taken her seat.
The Notebook- He would have just kept sleeping around with women and drank himself stupid, called himself a player and her nothing but a gold digger.
Ghost- She would have collected the life insurance policy and found herself a man half her age (like Ashton).

Aside from coming back to the dead, these movies aren't asking for a lot from men in terms of romance, they represent how a man would die trying to save a woman, how nothing and no one can keep you away from someone you have to have, and that once you have her, there is no one that could ever replace her.

A little romance can go a long way, even though our lives get busy, the woman in your life should always know that she is the one, that she has always been the one, and if not, then you are not meant to be.

Hopelessly Romantic

-Miss Information

Defining Selfishness

I have kind of jumped a few topics ahead here because I stumbled across a topic that seems important to cover, but it is often ignored. I wanted to see if we could actually define the term selfishness and to see if there are boundaries to being selfish. We learn that selfishness is doing for ones self. We know that sometimes it is important to be selfish, but how far is too far when it comes to selfishness and at what costs should you be selfish?

It is important to be selfish from time to time, especially if you are someone who always does for others. When you are a mom, it is OK to be selfish from time to time because you dedicate your entire life to someone else. So when you spend all your money clothing kids, it is OK to be selfish from time to time to buy yourself a pair of pants.

Sometimes defining selfishness is simple, but other times not so much. When it comes to the matter of the heart is it OK to be selfish. When you are hurting people who love you in order to do for yourself, is selfish going to far?

It is human nature to be selfish, but how do you draw the line between doing right by you and doing right by others? Can you argue that you should always get what you want despite of how it makes others feel. Does it make a difference when it comes to who you are neglecting with selfish actions.

At the other time, at what point do you have a say when it comes to interfering with other peoples actions without being selfish for yourself? Are you selfish when you are asking someone to go against something they enjoy if it means keeping them around longer?

Selfishness can be both good and bad, but finding the line between good and bad is difficult, if not somewhat impossible.